允许自己不好

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We live in a world that constantly tells us to stay positive, 我们生活的这个世界，总在教我们要保持积极，

to look on the bright side, to be grateful no matter what. 凡事要往好处想，无论如何都要心存感激。

And most of the time, that's good advice. 大多数时候，这确实是好建议。

But I've come to believe there's a quiet harm in it too. 但我慢慢觉得，这里面其实也藏着一种隐隐的伤害。

Because sometimes you just feel bad, 因为有时候，人就是会心情不好，

and forcing a smile on top 而硬逼着自己挤出笑脸，

of it only presses the sadness down deeper. 只会把那种难过压抑得更深。

What I've slowly learned is to let 我后来慢慢学会的是，允许

myself actually feel the hard things. 自己真正去感受那些难熬的情绪。

To be sad when I'm sad, 难过的时候就好好难过，

without rushing to fix it or explain it away. 不用急着去摆平它，或者找理由把它掩盖过去。

Strangely, when I stop fighting a bad feeling 说来也怪，当我不再跟糟糕的情绪对抗，

and just let it be there for a while, 只是任由它在那儿待上一会儿，

it tends to pass through much faster. 它反而会消散得更快。

Feelings are like weather. 情绪就像天气一样。

They move on, if you let them. 只要你顺其自然，它们总会过去的。

You don't have to be sunny every single day. 你真没必要每一天都阳光灿烂。