劝酒

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At certain dinners, especially back home, not drinking can feel almost impossible. 在有些饭局上，特别是在老家，想不喝酒几乎是不可能的。

Someone raises a glass to you, everyone's watching, 有人端起酒杯敬你，全桌人都在看着，

and saying no feels like an insult. 这时候说不喝，感觉就像在不给人面子。

For years I just went along with it, 很多年里，我都只能硬着头皮顺从，

drinking more than I wanted, because refusing seemed rude. 喝得远超自己的意愿，就因为觉得拒绝显得太不礼貌。

But I've slowly learned to hold my ground, kindly. 但后来我慢慢学会了，怎么客气却坚定地守住底线。

I raise my glass with everyone, I join the toast, 我也跟着大家一起举杯、一起碰杯，

but I sip water or tea instead. 只不过我抿的是水或者茶。

I smile, I stay warm, I don't make it a big deal. 我笑着，态度依然热情，不把这事搞得有多严重。

And you know what? 你猜怎么着？

The world doesn't end. 天根本塌不下来。

Real friends don't actually need you 真正的朋友其实根本不需要你

to drink to prove you care about them. 靠喝酒来证明你有多在乎他们。

It took me a long time to realize 我花了很长时间才想明白，

that being pressured into something isn't the same as being welcomed. 被人硬逼着做一件事，跟真正受人欢迎完全是两码事。

You can be fully part of the table without an empty glass. 就算不用杯杯喝干，你也一样能完全融入这个饭局。