学会说不

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For most of my life, I said yes to everything. 在我过去的大半时间里，我对什么事都说“好”。

Yes to favors I didn't have time for, 答应那些我根本没空帮的忙，

yes to plans I didn't want, 答应那些我根本不想去的聚会，

yes to extra work that wasn't mine. 接下那些根本不属于我的额外工作。

I thought being agreeable made me a good person. 我曾以为有求必应就代表我是个好人，

Instead it just made me exhausted and quietly resentful. 可到头来，这只让我精疲力竭，心里还憋着怨气。

The turning point came 转折发生在那一次，

when I said yes to helping someone move 我答应了帮别人搬家，

on the one weekend I'd promised to rest, 可那个周末明明是我答应自己要好好休息的，

and I spent the whole day angry at myself. 结果一整天我都在生自己的闷气。

That's when I realized something. 也就是在那时，我突然明白了一件事：

Every time I say yes to something I don't want, 每当我答应一件自己不想要的事，

I'm saying no to something I actually do want. 我其实就是在对自己真正想要的事说“不”。

Now I try to pause before answering. 现在，在回答之前我都会试着先停顿一下。

No is a complete sentence. 说“不”本身就是一句完整的话。

And the people who really matter don't leave 而且那些真正重要的人，并不会离你而去，

when you start using it. 哪怕你开始学会拒绝。