五个名字

类别：成长

作者记录下生命中最重要的五个人，却发现陪伴时间与爱意极不匹配，于是主动拨通电话改变现状。

时长 52 秒 · 语速 156 wpm

字幕原文

On a quiet evening, I tried a small exercise. 在一个安静的晚上，我做了一个小测试。

I took a piece of paper 我拿了一张纸，

and wrote down the five people who matter most to me. 写下了对我最重要的五个人。

It took ten seconds. 整个过程只花了十秒钟。

I didn't have to think. 我甚至都不需要思考。

Then came the second part. 接着是第二部分。

Next to each name, 在每个人的名字旁边，

write how much time you spent with them last week. 写下你上周陪了他们多长时间。

Real time. 实打实的相处时间。

Not in the same room on different screens. 不是指呆在同一个屋檐下各自看手机那种。

My mother: one phone call, nine minutes. 我妈：打了一通电话，九分钟。

I was cooking while we talked. 聊天的时候我还在做饭。

My wife: maybe four hours, and half of that was about bills. 我妻子：大概四个小时，其中一半时间还在聊账单。

My oldest friend: zero. 我最好的发小：零。

A thumbs-up on a photo. 只是给一张照片点了个赞。

I looked at the page for a long time. 我盯着那张纸看了好久。

Nothing is wrong, exactly. 其实也没出什么大问题。

Nobody is angry with me. 也没人在生我的气。

But the list and the hours didn't match. 但是这份名单和相处的时间，完全对不上号。

So I picked up the phone, and started at the top. 于是我拿起手机，从名单上的第一个人开始打了过去。