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I have a friend who can talk to absolutely anyone. 我有个朋友，跟谁都能聊上几句。

We'll be standing in line for coffee, 我们一起排队买咖啡，

and within two minutes she knows the barista's name, 不到两分钟，她就能知道咖啡师叫什么名字、

where they're from, and what they're studying. 是哪里人，以及在学什么专业。

I used to think she was just born that way, 我以前总以为她是天生如此，

lucky, wired for it. 运气好，生来就自带这种社交天赋。

But I watched her more closely, and it's not magic. 但后来我仔细观察过她，这其实根本不是什么魔法。

She just asks people about themselves and actually listens. 她只是会问问别人的情况，而且是真的在认真听。

That's the whole trick. 诀窍全都在这里。

She isn't trying to be interesting. 她并不是想让自己显得多有趣，

She's trying to be interested. 而是真心对别人感兴趣。

Most of us walk around worried about what to say, 我们大多数人总在一边走一边担心该说什么、

how we sound, whether we're boring. 自己听起来怎么样、会不会显得很无聊。

She skips all of that 但她把这些全跳过了，

and just gets curious about the other person. 就只是单纯对眼前的人感到好奇。

It turns out being good with people isn't about talking more. 事实证明，善于社交并不在于你有多能聊，

It's about caring, out loud, a little. 而是在于把你的那份关心，大大方方地说出口一点点。